Psychologists have said that if a friendship lasts seven years or more, it will last a lifetime! In the last year this is something that I have become a firm believer in. In a person’s life time they will encounter hundreds of friendships that will start like wildfire but eventually fizzle out like a sparkler! Not every person you met is compatible, it’s the people that you meet that make your friendship work against all odds that you should cherish!
Through every part of my life I have met tons of people, some I didn’t like but got on with to make life easier and others who I thought would be my friends for years to come! I make friends too easily, I try to be nice and welcoming to everyone I met, sometimes this is my downfall other times it has been the best decision of my life! One thing I have learnt throughout the years is to be secretly weary of the people that are coming into your life, not all of them want to be your friend or want to see you happy. It’s not nice having to remind yourself not to get too attached to new people that you meet even though you want to make new friends!
At times I would have done anything to get past friends back, even considering changing myself so that I could get their friendship back! Real friends wouldn’t let you do that to yourself, they take you and love you for who you are, from the minute they first meet you. I have tried to be somebody I was not for years, not knowing who I really was, mainly because I wanted to be liked by the cool girls and not wanting to be left out!
I have lost ‘friends’ in the past years, at the time thinking that I had done something wrong and as time went on I realised that it was their lose not mine! But each friendship taught me a lesson and made me appreciate my true friends even more. Though I might not see or talk to the girls on a daily basis I know that they are there for me no matter what happens. The last year has being proof of that and I could not have asked for better friends!
They have been there through the good times and most importantly they have been there through some of the most difficult times I have being through! I wouldn’t change any of them for the world!! I have known these ladies since secondary school. Though we might not have all hung around when we were younger, we have become great friends as the years went on! Today I realized we graduated from Loreto 8 years ago, those 8 years have flown by too quickly!! We all have went through some tough times and so much has happened but it only seems like yesterday walking into the hall on our first day as 1st years, not knowing what our future held but being too naïve to care!
Each of us have come from different backgrounds but we have all grown into exceptional young ladies who have given life the two fingers at all the crap it has thrown our way as individuals, personally being grateful I didn’t have to deal with it on my own. I might not always ask for help, but knowing the girls are only a phone call away makes life a hell of a lot easier! Knowing that you can walk into the house and have a cup of tea while chatting about shite but still knowing that the conversation can turn to more serious stuff within seconds!
They are the craziest people I have ever met but I love them all the same! They are individuals in their own right, we are all friends but no two of us are the same which I think makes us come together even more! We are comfortable with each other that we can sit in silence without it being awkward, we can be absolute idiots in front of one another and laugh till we cry at how ridiculously stupid we can be!!
Simple things like throwing a ‘Congratulations for getting your Masters/Mary’s birthday’ Chinese night, which ends up with us high on helium and seeing who can fit into Moya’s toys!
You couldn’t make this up if you tried! You don’t have to have wild, side splitting nights every week with your friends, it would get boring. It is the unexpected, gasping for air, laughing until your ribs hurt nights that are the best and make you realise why you still have these lunatics as friends!!
To Mary, Lisa, Lily, Sandra and Lisa, I thank you for being the crazies that you are!! You are endless entertainment as well as my best friends! XX ❤ XX